“He grants sleep to those He loves.” Psalm 127:2
DOES GOD LOVE YOU?
No doubt! He loves you very much. Why then are there so many Christians struggling with their ability to get to sleep well at night? Especially when we have scriptures that guide us like: “Cast all of your cares upon the Lord- for He cares for you.” (1 Peter 5:7) and “… to whom did God swear that they would never enter his rest if not to those who disobeyed? So we see that they were not able to enter, because of their unbelief.” (Hebrew 3:18-19) In these two scriptures we read that God is there for us to give our issues to, and that unbelief in Him and His abilities and His sovereignty keeps us from entering into His rest.
If you believe in Him and trust in Him, then you really should be able to receive from Him a sweet night sleep. Worrying, fretting, stressing, and frustration robs us from our ability enter into “His rest” because these emotions when entertained do more harm than good, and led us into disbelief and doubt that God is WHO HE REALLY SAYS HE IS.
For instance, if you had a rough day on the job, and have started worrying about making ends meet- you have now taken over from God His covenant promise of provision to you. Now, as you have become “lord over your own life” you end up going to bed worrying about your bills and accounts and how xyz is supposed to happen. Taking Lordship away from the Father and placing it into your own hands, creates and causes major disbelief in God’s ability to provide for you. Perhaps all of this burden before bed has become habitual for you. I would encourage you TODAY to pray that the Lord would ease your heart, give you the heart for repentance, and begin trusting in HIM again… with everything.
“In your anger do not sin”: Do not let the sun go down while you are still angry,
and do not give the devil a foothold. Eph. 4:26-27
VOW TO NEVER GO TO BED ANGRY
In the last 15 years of marriage, Jeff and I have had many disagreements, but we have always abided by the scripture:
“In your anger do not sin”: Do not let the sun go down while you are still angry, and do not give the devil a foothold. Eph. 4:26-27
Regardless of whether you are single or married, stewing overnight on an argument or offense will always steal your much needed and deserved sweet sleep. Do your best every time that you are in an intense situation to take a breath or two, and clear up any offenses that might have occurred during the day, before you go to sleep. The devil always has the upper hand when he can convince us to go to bed mad, because he knows that the spirit of anger and depression festers, and while you will wake up in the morning the same as always- you won’t wake up feeling the same as always! You will be exhausted and less effective or productive. Chances are that after a fight of unresolved issue; you will sleep poorly, wake up late, and always channel soreness deep, deep inside of you. These feelings will surface one day, but by then it is usually too late!
FIVE KEY PHRASES TO CALM DOWN ANY FIGHT
1. “Can you please forgive me?”
Try using this instead of “I’m Sorry.” When you ask for someone’s forgiveness, immediately you are assuming responsibility for the offense and it will cause the other person to have to say “Yes,” or “No.” Giving you more to talk about while you are going through the issue.
2. “I understand how you feel, that would make me feel the same way too.”
Earnestly try and empathize with those that could be upset with you. Think about them, and why they are losing their patience with you. It might be that they are tired, hungry, angry, or even lonely.
3. “I am sorry I disrespected you,” or “Can you please forgive me for showing you disrespect?”
Any time you mention respect to a man, you are speaking his language. Women respond to emotions like men respond to respect. As a wife, apologizing for coming off as disrespectful carries a lot of weight. I can remember one time when Jeff was trying to get a hold of me and I didn’t answer my cell-phone. By apologizing for the disrespect that my actions caused him to feel, it defused the situation immediately and we were able to move on.
4. Wives, you may want to try this “Could you please help me understand where you are coming from? Is there a key issue, or bottom line that you would like me to understand?”
Even though this sounds more professional than marital, understand that when your husband is upset with you, or something you have done, he immediately shuts down into work mode. He may come off icy at best, and is professional in attitude. After all, this is how he deals with conflicts daily. Don’t be surprised if he begins to talk to you as a secretary or employee. If that happens, just try and stay unemotional, and play the role back to him. He will learn to respect you, and feel respected at the same time.
5. Husbands, you may want to try this “Is there anything I can help you with? I understand that you are under a lot of stress right now with ‘xyz’, (try and be specific it will be more endearing and show that you have been listening) I would like to give you all of my attention until we can get this situation resolved… please tell me again how I can help.”
If the situation has gotten beyond the ability to talk, do not be afraid to go right up to your wife and give her a big hug, and let her cry. Most often the response when people get offended is to run away, but never underestimate the power of an authentic embrace. Sometimes that is all women need.
SOME BEDTIME TIPS: “He grants sleep to those He loves.” Psalm 127:2
- Give all your cares over to God: “God I know You want what is best for me, and I trust that You can handle everything that I am going through. I want to thank you ahead of time for the great night sleep that I am about to have.”
- Make sure that you have forgiven everyone who has offended you, try to make it right with them before bed- if at all possible.
- Read the Bible and some scriptures to sooth your spirit before you sleep
- Count your blessings
- Intercede in prayer for your friends
- Tea before bed: Try a cup of honey, lemon and hot water. Settle the throat and the nerves.
In conclusion, rest is good for us. It is the time for reflection, praise and thanksgiving and renewal of the body. God does not need to rest, and yet He is so confident in His work that the Bible says that on the seventh day “He rested”. If God can be so confident- shouldn’t we be as confident in Him in return? As my gift to you, I would like to give you some scriptures on sleep/rest that I pray will put your mind to ease and give you that rest you have been longing for- MAY GOD BLESS YOU IN YOUR REST!
[It is] vain for you to rise up early, to sit up late, to eat the bread of sorrows: [for] so he giveth his beloved sleep. Psalm 127:2
“Yet if you devote your heart to him, and stretch out your hands to him, if you put away the sin that is in your hand and allow no evil to dwell in your tent, then, free of fault, you will lift up your face; you will stand firm and without fear. You will surely forget your trouble, recalling it only as waters gone by. Life will be brighter than noonday, and darkness will become like morning. You will be secure, because there is hope; you will look about you and take your rest in safety. You will lie down, with no one to make you afraid, and many will court your favor.” Job 11:13-19
When you lie down, you will not be afraid; when you lie down, your sleep will be sweet. Proverbs 3:24
The sleep of a laborer is sweet, whether he eats little or much. Eccl 5:12
For he will command his angels concerning you to guard you in all your ways; they will lift you up in their hands, so that you will not strike your foot against a stone. Psalm 91:11-12
For God did not give us a spirit of fear, but a spirit of power, of love and of self-discipline. 2 Timothy 1:7
Cast your cares on the LORD and he will sustain you; he will never let the righteous fall. Psalm 55:22
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