So, You Married Your Opposite – Now What?

When my husband and I first met we only saw our similarities… there were SO many! From the fact our first names both started with “J” to our dreams, goals, and desires. This made the whole “courtship” process of 3 months easily do-able. When you believe you are marrying the better version of you – where is the hesitation to come from? NO WHERE!

It wasn’t until around the three year mark that I realized how opposite we were. The way we were raised: Christian vs Non-Christian, Siblings vs No Siblings, Rented House vs Purchased House… etc, etc. It was as if the “love cloud” that had made all our similar parts the only thing we could see had evaporated and what was left was two complete strangers living in the same house!

It was upon this revelation that I was left with the decision to change things or just live miserably married. Divorce has never been an option for Jeff or I, as we decided to entirely remove it from our vocabulary (this is something I suggest all couples do). Just like in Robert Kiyosaki’s Rich Dad Poor Dad, Jeff and I had seen Happily Married Unhappily Married with our Grandparents and Parents and we chose “Happily Married” – even if it meant we had to become students of marriage.

WHY I KEEP SHOCKING IMAGES ON MY WALL

YES. I actually keep a picture of an “in your face” lime green Lambo taped by Washi tape on my wall above my computer. To those who strive for piety, this is SHOCKING for those who have a morbid fascination with the despondent of humanity… you aren’t shocked at all (you were probably hoping for a severed limb or something). I call it shocking because to a mom of six, an IN YOUR FACE LAMBO is the complete opposite of a Toyota Sienna, and frankly it inspires me.

Back in my MLM days we were promised that if we surrounded ourselves with pictures of material possessions we would one day get them. 10 years ago I had pictures of Ferrari’s, airplanes, golf courses, and mega-mansions all over the place. Unfortunately though I had been mislead, and no matter how hard I “meditated” on a Ferrari our 1986 Volvo just didn’t transform. This type of materialistic wishful thinking only made me mad, bitter, and frustrated. I can remember seriously CRYING driving through nice neighborhoods looking at open houses – and not being able to buy them. It wasn’t long before I was surrounded by clean wall squares in place of vividly colored material imagery.

When I received the message on “wholeness” and began preaching on it, wanting material things – JUST FOR THE SAKE OF HAVING THEM – became moot. After all, when you have Jesus in your heart you don’t need for anything! A WHOLE human being realizes as a new creation that even their SPIRIT is lacking nothing. Let me remind you before we go on… YOU ARE WHOLE, CHRIST HAS MADE YOU WHOLE YOU DON’T “NEED” STUFF.

So why the fancy things again… what has changed?

The ABC’s of a Healthy & Happy Marriage

Perfect for married couples that are unhappy and needing help, couples needing encouragement, and singles who need to know what to expect when the happy day occurs. This list will equip you with some tricks and tips that you can apply in relationships toward your own “Happily Ever After”… Here is to a love that …

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