A Titus 2 Series: Let’s Make Parenting EASY!

Just relax…

A NEW SERIES BASED ON TITUS 2

“Likewise, teach the older women to be reverent in the way they live, not to be slanderers or addicted to much wine, but to teach what is good. Then they can train the younger women to love their husbands and children, to be self-controlled and pure, to be busy at home, to be kind, and to be subject to their husbands, so that no one will malign the word of God.” NIV Titus 2:3-5

The book of Titus, especially Titus 2, has a special place in my heart. There years ago, before the Lord and I started WHM, Titus 2 was the scripture He gave me to make foundation for every work that I do in the future. All business deals, all at home deals, it is quite possibly the foundation for education on HOW to lead others in the right way and on the right path. It says “let’s do things RIGHT”.

Looking at teaching others about being a mother or a wife, there are a few things that I have learned in the last 15 years that might make your job easier. Even dads too! Single dad’s or husbands can learn more about the way we women think, by reading about what makes us tick. Hopefully, I can reveal some secret insight that might bless you as well! Here goes!

A PICTURE CAN TELL 1,000+ WORDS, LET’S MAKE PARENTING EASY

Here is a picture of my son Andrew, and it really does say a lot. The first thing that you should know is that I picked it off my hard drive at random. There is nothing staged about this shot. All of my pictures of Andrew are really this colorful.


IT’S OK TO… TAKE YOUR KIDS WITH YOU!

  • Making parenting easy can be as simple as this picture. Notice we are at the Pottery Barn Kids Store. Whenever we go to the mall as a family, we make sure that we include our children’s “fun spots” as a feature of doing errands. Stores like Pottery Barn Kids, enjoy having kids come and play with the toys, and sit in the chairs. Anytime you have to go someplace, choose to make your life easier by remembering that society has things geared for kids too. Think slurpee’s from 7-11 (always a fun treat), french fries from McDonald’s (don’t go crazy, a small fry once in a while does wonders), cliff bars from the corner Quick-E Mart or Circle K, Costco has 1.50$ hot dogs and sodas, and even the Post Office has people watching to keep kids busy for hours. Don’t be afraid to take you kids places, just remember to engage with them and continue to discipline them by showing them respect and involving them in decision making processes. However if you need to be stern, try and take them to the bathroom- no one wants to watch it, but it should ALWAYS be done immediately vs. later or “when we get home”.

IT’S OK TO… LET THEM DRESS THEMSELVES!

  • Notice in this picture Andrew dressed himself! This picture was taken in the winter, and he has no socks on. I know it was in the winter because it was at Christmas time at the Stanford Shopping Center in Palo Alto. Let your kids dress themselves, and go out in public too! Teach them that their BEST clothes are for church, button up shirts for boys, dresses or nice slack type pants for girls. We choose khaki’s or cords over jeans for church- church is about reverence for the Lord and we respect Him, when we clean and present ourselves at our best.  Showing them you trust them is important, however mini-skirts and hot pants for girls at ANY age is always a NO NO, girls need to remain covered to a certain length, regardless of style. There is a saying, “Whatever you are willing to show, you are willing to share.”

 

SEW WHEN THINGS DON’T FIT YET

  • Andrew’s pants are cut off… pants! Not even shorts, his mother (me) cut the extra length off of a pair of pants that were way too long. Unfinished jean hems on kids are ok, as long as the leg hole isn’t so big that they trip. If you have clothes that are too big for your kids now (in the case of 2″+ hem length that is like 2 years), rather than letting them sit for 2 years, mend them to size NOW. (Either by yourself or through someone else who can sew) There is no need to spend extra money when you are all ready fully equipped! These pants even look a little too short, but that’s ok. (Refer back to #2)

 

REDEFINE “NEW”, KIDS NEED TO BE TAUGHT TO BE GRATEFUL

  • Andrew’s shirt is way too big, and his hat is way too small! His way too big shirt is a result of wearing his older brothers clothes, does it look like he cares? People who make big issues out of used clothes have kids who can not stand to wear “used” clothes. “New” is “new”. Teaching your children how to appreciate that something can be “new to you”, but not necessarily brand new is very VALUABLE and teaches them how to have grateful hearts. Television, advertisers, and stores with try and convince you that the only way for you to have respect is to spend everything you have on something no one else has owned. This is NOT truth in advertising. This is a marketing tool to get you to spend more, because their cost of manufacturing is so HIGH! When you buy or inherit something pre-owned, you are cutting out the middle man, and taking away the larger companies profit margin. While I do a little bit of both, new and used, I always look to companies like; second-hand, thrift, consignment stores, and even craigslist first before I do a majority of purchases. You will be surprised the brand names that you can find, do to the surplus of goods being produced at this point in time. Make parenting easy on yourself- teach your children the value of “new to me, IS NEW because I have never had it before”. Andrew is wearing a small hat, because it is a Lightning McQueen hat… no explanation needed!

 

GIVE YOUR KIDS SOMETHING TO SMILE ABOUT- A HAPPY MOMMY AND DADDY!

  • Andrew is smiling. Some kids smile for the camera, and some don’t. I have found though that on the whole, happy kids have happy parents. Parents who see life for what it CAN BE are choosing to look at the positives in life vs. the negatives. It can be as simple as positive people yield positive results!  Asking Andrew to “SMILE” is easy… because as a trained positive possibility thinker, he ALWAYS has something to smile about!

 

God bless you, all you mothers and fathers, and soon to be moms and dads! Parenting CAN be easy, especially when you relax and take the time to pay attention to the little details in life, I pray that you can begin to ENJOY every step of the way!

 



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