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TIME TO TAKE A FAMILY VACATION

In response to a readers question, last week we discussed our children’s “Love Tanks” and how we should be working to fill them up. Recognizing that children are people too! This week my husband Jeff and I decided to go on a spontaneous family vacation (over the weekend) to rest, relax, and embrace some much needed family time. While we were on our “vacation” we received some very bad news that one of our dear friends was in an accident and had passed away. She was one of our children’s coaches and best friend. It was hard news to hear and to deliver, especially on “vacation”. In hindsight, it was good that we were on vacation and able to be relaxed when we heard the news. We were able to grieve and really think clearly in a time of trial. How often are we so “maxed out and stressed out” that we can’t emotionally handle “the facts of life… and death”.

“Train up a child in the way he should go [and in keeping with his individual gift or bent], and when he is old he will not depart from it.” Proverbs 22:6 AMP

Teaching your children from a young age to “work hard, play hard” is a very important facet of parenting. There needs to be a balance between fun and work, social time and quiet time and of course “stimulation” (computers/video games/phones) and non-stimulation time. In our family, we have always sought to begin our children with responsibilities as young as possible. Putting the dishes away, making their beds, etc. Some people are amazed when they see our 15 and 13 year old sons taking our little ones to the store or for a walk downtown, but to them this is not out of the ordinary. Children crave to contribute, and in this sense they are proud that they can help us.

Everyone needs time to “relax” a change of scenery and a time to “shut out” the world. Vacations don’t have to take days and days, and they don’t have to be expensive. For our vacation we went over the weekend to a hotel with a pool. Those were the only requirements. All that was expected was #1 eating, and #2 swimming. No theme parks, no electronics, just the sun and fun. It just so happened to be the first weekend of summer too! Pretty cool!

This week on The Word Works! Our video-blog, I took the camera with us on “vacation” and recorded the kids answers to some important questions like; “What does it mean to be a ‘Christian'” and “What makes you ‘happy’?” I hope you enjoy watching the 5 minute video and hearing what these wonderful children have to say! “The Road Trip Episode” The Word Works! Ep. 3 S. 2 

 

Here are some other articles related to child raising-

Parenting:

SPEAKING YOUR CHILD’S LOVE LANGUAGE

The five love languages: quality time, physical touch, words of affrimation, quality time, & acts of service.

Just the other day a reader wrote into our website:

“What do you do with verbally aggressive child? My 6 year old is aggressive in one situation only: when we are in a play group and other child takes his toys. His response is to yell, stomp, make mean faces, and berate the young child. Usually the advice I get is ‘well, you must be modeling it’ or he’s learning from his older brother or father. Please believe he is not. He has never hit or hit back in my presence or teachers or in the 5 years of full daycare, but the anger is bad enough and many people who’ve never met him before assume he will…I’ve seem many worried parents move their kids away from him/distract their kids from him after (and I think that could be his motivation)…” (Summarized, original post here)

Here was my response:

“Well… it definitely sounds as if you have a situation that needs resolving! Having 5 boys of my own, I have learned that when they act out inappropriately it tends to be as a result from one of two actions. #1 Is the child getting their love tank filled? Dr. Gary Chapman, has written the most WONDERFUL book called “The Five Love Languages For Children”. In his book he says that the five love languages are: Quality Time, Words of Affirmation, Physical Touch, Gifts, and Acts of Service. These five ways of communicating love with one another can drastically affect relationships and behavior. Perhaps your son isn’t getting the quality (not quantity) time he needs to feel loved. (Think story time, coloring, ice-cream… one-on-one, especially if there is a baby around.) Maybe you have been tired and haven’t been telling him “I’m proud of you, or I Love YOU”… etc. etc. Each love language has a corresponding action that you can begin to implement in your day to fill that little boys heart with love to overflowing. Just start speaking to him in a love that he can understand. :) #2 The child as a BOY could need more responsibility or more exersise. I have two sons that when one starts acting out I send him for a run around the block! He comes back tired and happier. The other son when he is being cranky needs work to do. Perhaps your son could help at school/daycare clean up the room or be given a position in the class to help lead the littler children in activities. Boys need work, love, exersice and to be helpful. God Bless you friend!”

YOUR CHILD HAS A “LOVE TANK”

Your little one has a “love tank” like a gas tank! If it gets down to ’empty’ they won’t be acting like themselves! What they need is a good dose of love in the way you speak to them. Your spouse has a love tank too! Today I would suggest taking your loved ones out for a walk, speaking that you love them, giving them a hug, spending time with them and doing something nice. You might be surprised at what changes well spoken love can make! Please watch Jessica’s live answer to her reader here via this youTube link: “The Problem Child” The Word Works! Episode 2: Season 2

Here are other marriage and family articles on “The Five Love Languages”:

MIRACLES!

“Behold, the LORD’S hand is not shortened, that it cannot save; neither his ear heavy, that it cannot hear:” Isaiah 59:1

MIRACLES!

I believe in miracles, do you? At the moment while I am writing this… my children are screaming, air punching, cleaning up their rooms and doing a myriad of things to distract me! Writing this in itself, is a miracle!

I often get asked, “How do you hear from God?” I think this is what those who are not Christians find the most curious aspect of Christianity. “Does He sound like Sean Connery when He talks? Is there a burning bush? Does He sound like my own voice? Is hearing from God just a feeling?” All good questions!

HEARING FROM GOD

When Jeff and I had no money (watch this weeks episode of The Word Works!), and we were having to trust God for our next meal (literally!) we dug in the Word in order to clearly hear from God. That really is the key, understanding HOW God communicates. What reading the Word does is gives us the knowledge of what His voice sounds like to us. For example, if you weren’t reading the Word to know that stealing was bad, you might think that robbing a bank was a good idea. After all, it gets your needs met right? Hollywood sure makes it glamorous to be a Villain! But stealing goes against the Word, it puts into action penalties of justice both with man AND God… so God would never “tell” you to steal. Instead maybe while you are driving along the road you might get in your spirit an idea to start a new company, build a new product, or work with someone you know. Are those three things legal? Do they take faith? Does God approve of them? Then chances are you have had a God-to-man moment and you should roll with it! In order to be confident in your execution of God ideas – you have to KNOW what He sounds like! Reading the Word is like a God Translator… it’s AWESOME!

This blog, this website, and the videos we produce have all been results of moments spent in prayer hearing from God with a heart to witness to others. I love what I do, even when there is chaos in the midst! It is a miracle, to me, that God could use me to influence others to live fear free, and to begin a wholehearted life! God is so GOOD! Study Him, study His Word and start hearing from Him today!

Watch this weeks episode of The Word Works! And hear a miraclous story from Jessica: