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Are You Ready to Be Assertive?

I find it very interesting when I looked up the word “assertive” in the dictionary that the sentence example of use was: Patients need to be more assertive with their doctors.

As 2012 came around the corner I have heard this word “ASSERTIVE” more and more in my spirit as the word … FOR THE YEAR.

You Are Called to Be ASSERTIVE

  • “Be self-controlled and alert. Your enemy the devil prowls around like a roaring lion looking for someone to devour.” 1 Peter 5:8 NIV84
  • “Therefore keep watch, because you do not know on what day your Lord will come.” Matt 24:42
  • “What I say to you, I say to everyone: ‘Watch!’” Mark 13:37

The Lord says “WATCH”! This is what He says to everyone, I believe He says this about many things and NOT just in relation to His return. How good is an army if it is not assertive, coherent or observant?

We once knew a man who while at war was held up in a fox hole and in charge of deploying grenades. There was an instance when he had just pulled a grenade pin and while he had his thumb on the safety, ready to throw his bunker was hit. You know this man lay unconscious for quite a while holding the safety on that grenade! He said after he came back from consciousness, he had a terrible cramp in his hand and didn’t know why… it wasn’t until he looked down at his hand that he saw he was still clenching that explosive! His subconscious mind (and I am sure the angels surrounding him) had held that explosive at bay until he was coherent enough to get back into battle – AMAZING!

This is the type of assertion that I believe that we need to partake in 2012. Would this man have stayed alive if he had been inebriated? Would he have been able to get back into battle if he had been half asleep? Heaven’s NO! Maybe some of you, well most of you were asleep at the wheel in 2011, today’s wake up call is to ASSERT yourself to future opportunities, take the reigns and WATCH!

But Aren’t We Supposed to REST?

Yesterday, January 3rd I wrote an article called: The Price of Success and The New Year: BURNOUT  . Please understand that being assertive and overworking are not the same thing. Assertive people are sharp people and can see situations unfolding before their very eyes. They can easily smell a rat (or a good deal) and they act on their hunches. A way for you to “take charge” and be more assertive may be to run every morning, get a new hair color or cut, buy some new clothes in a new style, reinvent your branding to others. What have people said about you in the past – do you need to change their image of you? Maybe it is time to hang up the dog collar necklaces, the stuffy white shirts, the mom pants or the baby-girl pig tails? Perhaps 2012 is your year to be proactive and take that proverbial bull by the horns!

“Patients need to be more assertive with their doctors”

That sentence is so telling that it is nearly prophetic. How readily do we “trust” the experts over the Lord? Here you have even the Merriam-Webster Dictionary telling people in their sentence example that: “Patients need to be more assertive with their doctors” what does this mean? It means take charge of your own life. Don’t accept a mans “diagnosis” or “opinion” as the final say for YOU. Go into your 2012 and all your upcoming situations standing tall with a strong back and a watchful winner’s eye, it WILL pay out… being watchful always does!


  1. Brush your teeth at least twice daily (Simple I know, but you would be surprised how confidence building having fresh flossed teeth and fresh breath is!)
  2. Take the time to shower daily (In Leviticus the Bible talks repeatedly about washing our hands and the benefits of cleanliness. Women wear shower caps if you hair is perfect and shower anyway, showering at night before bed can also help you sleep at night)
  3. Eat fruits and veggies MORE often than meat (While meat can be a good additive to a diet, it is not intended to BE your diet. Eating fruits and veggies primarily is LOW in cost and HIGH in fiber which can give more oxygen to your brain and aid you in your assertive thinking process)
  4. Start your day AFTER your devotional and morning exercise (This year I have started something new. I used to try and wake up at 5 every morning to do my devotional and exercise, but this never worked for me. Instead this year, I am not allowing my day to officially “start” until after I have woken up, spent time in the Word, and gone for my morning run. I USED to think my day “started” when my eyes opened in my bed. Now I don’t let my day start until after first things first)
  5. Take time to rest and THINK (Instead of just barreling through your day, how about every time you take a minute to look at your watch to see what time it is… you take some time to think. Look at what time it is, take a deep breath and think of what you can do in your next recovery period to just relax. Have a cup of coffee, eat a cookie, walk the dog, play on the floor with your kids. If you find yourself looking at your watch, chances are you are anxious about something. Stop the anxiety and replace it with assertion. Assert yourself to “do” something productive to overcome your problems, and rest while you think. NO TV, NO MUSIC, just REST and happy THOUGHTS. Kind of like pixie dust, rest + happy thoughts = soaring through the issues of life!)
May God Bless you as you assert yourself to greatness!
Sincerely your friend,








The Price of Success and The New Year : BURNOUT

Bicycling is AWESOME, really AWESOME. It’s good exercise, gives you a view, and keeps you aware of your surroundings. So here is a silly question… why not then just do it ALL the time? Seriously, if it’s good for you – why not? Just get a little uni-cycle and go around the house with it, go to the store with it, cycle while working, cycle in bed with your feet in the air. You can NEVER have too much of a good thing right? I mean your legs won’t fall off will they?

No, your legs won’t literally fall off but your body will eventually poop out. (Can’t you see the Enquirer headlines? Man’s Legs Fall Off From Too Much Cycling: Wife Finds Legs on Floor Next to Body!!) Like when a car dies as it runs out of gas, so too a body shuts off after an endless barrage of physical or mental effort. This “exhaustion” is the price of success and every successful man (or woman) has paid it, and finds a way to get OVER it.

“Strengthen the feeble hands, steady the knees that give way; say to those with fearful hearts, ‘Be strong, do not fear; your God will come, he will come with vengeance; with divine retribution he will come to save you.'” Isaiah 35:3-4


Doing success can be bad for your health. So we suggest to not DO it. Instead, make becomming a success a lifestyle. It is common place to hear about the detriment of the baddies like too much smoking, drinking, over-eating, spending, gambling, clubbing, etc – but not many people will say “Hey buddy, you’re working too hard.” What would happen if your boss said, “Hey buddy you have been in the office too much, go home and go to bed!” Highly unlikely!

We in America can learn quite a bit about pacing ourselves from other countries. Countries that have Siestas, those that take regular Holidays, and those that laugh in the face of cell-phones. Really can you see a Provencial French Farmer on Facebook? I think not. We as an American society in the last 200+ years have attempted to play “catch up” to our much older more established country cousins by working as HARD AS WE CAN as LONG AS WE CAN to grow as FAST AS WE CAN. What people don’t realize however is that just like getting a drink of water from a firehose, TOO MUCH good TOO FAST can be harmful too.  (The last Indiana Jones where the woman asks to know everything in the Universe comes to mind – she basically explodes from information overload!)


Some people read their Bibles so fast it is like they are attempting to outrun God’s “wrath” by memorizing as much possitive scripture as possible. While this memorization of scripture is GREAT for our self-images and understanding of the Word, it can unfortunately keep us from that sweet by-and-by that God gave us to use to recuperate and rest. The Bible is indeed intended for us to work, but it has just as many wonderful scriptures in it intended for us to use to rest:

“But they that wait upon the LORD shall renew their strength; they shall mount up with wings as eagles; they shall run, and not be weary; and they shall walk, and not faint.” Isaiah 40:31 

I can remember going through periods in my life when I was called to study nearly 24/7, my ministry work demanded it. The season of struggling to get over a lack of knowledge was difficult however, and led me to exhaustion. It was almost as if the succeeding itself was too much to bare. Eventually, the good food gave way to junk food, excersising gave way in favor of couch surfing, and Bible reading gave way to television watching.


How does one “overcome” the exhaustion of success? By making time to rest and recover (even scheduled if you have to) and by selecting various activities that will get you the rest you need in order to stay motivated. Any time you are about to tackle a big project, make sure that you have recovery time worked into the job as well as a finishing reward. It sounds simple… but it never is!

Little things like running a mile to Starbucks to get your coffee, a new magazine on the way out from the grocery store after hours of grocery shopping, a special dessert after a week of cooking, a meal with the family after a hard day of work… all of these will keep your motor running and ensure you GREAT success. We in the Heilman household are extremely active in the area of personal growth, and can have a hard time of it when we overdo it. Some of the ways we “pace” ourself along the way are through family movie nights, board games with friends, breakfasts out as a couple on Saturdays, and long drives to the ocean to watch the sun set.

MAKE 2012 A Winner!

I would encourage us all to make 2012 a winner by primarily NOT overdoing it. Let’s not get to June and begin wishing 2012 was OVER. Instead, let us pace ourselves, grace ourselves, and encourage ourselves to rest our way through it… WE DESERVE IT!


May the Lord bless your New Year and give you all the strength that you need to keep with the program – enjoying it ALL the way!

Sincerely your friend,